Comments on: Series: A Look at Domestic Violence in Raleigh

By: Goalflinger

Goalflinger — Thu, 03 Jan 2013 17:36:36 +0000

Angels, it is apparent to me that you seem to be one of those who roam the internet with nothing better to do than take a legitimate concern of the public and twist it into what seems to be your warped view of reality. No, I do not need another attorney or any attorney for that matter. The only mention I made in reference to an attorney was my statement about a dog-bite. If you think that statement in error, I suggest you talk with an attorney about that and if he/she tells you anything different, please forward their name and number to me. You really do seem confused. This is only a suggestion. Perhaps you need an attorney to help you write more credible replies. This is getting a little boring.
It “is” a common ploy of your ilk to ignore common sense points of a dialogue while continuing to harp on things long since stated that you think will create more of a victim status for you and relish in any little tidbit that you can get one more ounce of sympathy from. You seem to be so typical of a mentality that exists today that says anything a man says makes a female an automatic victim, the truth be damned, regardless of how many other points that may be agreed on. How amusing. You also relish in taking a specific example of a broader issue and try to inadvertently portray that example as representative of a norm that exists only in the heads of you and people of your mentality. I can not speak for the rest of the world, nor do I care to, however intellectual dishonesty, barnstorming, grandstanding, and lame insinuations do not endear your argument to me.
Here is something else for you to ignore.
My heartfelt sympathies go with your daughter, her three children, and the husband. I hope they all get the help they need which hopefully will address the causes as well as the symptoms.
I see nothing to be gained for this dialogue to continue, so say what you want, write what you want. Reply what you want. Whatever makes you feel better. I wish you the best.
Good day.

By: Angels

Angels — Thu, 03 Jan 2013 00:00:20 +0000

Goalflinger you need to get another attorney. There are state laws that law enforcement have to go by. But my daughter had a GUN pulled on her by her law enforement husband and they just took him out of the home and had him to take some anger mangement classes and told him to stay away from her and the 3 children. His family called law enforement, because she was to afraid. We found out this has be going on for sometime. As well as the children seeing everything. As well as the verbal and mental abuse.

By: losttime

losttime — Fri, 28 Dec 2012 18:25:37 +0000

i wish they educate you in school about domestic violence, wouldve saved me alot in my teen years and young adult life, thankfully i got out when i did.

By: Goalflinger

Goalflinger — Thu, 27 Dec 2012 06:44:18 +0000

I have all the sympathy in the world for victims of domestic violence or any other kind of violence as well. I have very recently been involved with helping a woman get out of an abusive situation. I am well aware there are men out there who do these awful deeds. However, we need to remember that men are victims of domestic violence too. That is the other side of the same domestic violence story. It happens. It also happens that there are women who make false accusations of domestic violence because they know that all they have to do is falsly accuse and the man is treated by the courts as guilty until proven innocent. The whole domestic violence industry is built around the assumption that the man is always the perpetrator while little if anything is done to those who falsely accuse.
Even a dog can not be harrassed or taken in to custody until it has actually bitten someone, according to an attorney I talked to. Yet a decent human being without any kind of criminal history whatsoever can be accused, detained, kicked out of his house, have all kinds of legal actions taken against him and all because a lying woman says she is “afraid” of him. There does not even have to be physical contact. I could go on, but I think the point is obvious.

By: ForDebi

ForDebi — Wed, 26 Dec 2012 17:30:07 +0000

I only wish my sister was alive to tell her side of the story! She suffered years of abuse, too ashamed to share with family members! Then one day her estranged husband, kidnapped her from the parking lot at her place of employment, shot her and then took his own life! Leaving behind 3 young boys under the age of 12! The only safety net my sister had was a piece of paper signed off by a judge that stated he was not allowed within 500 yards of her! That paper could not stop the sawed off shotgun blast! Joebuck & goalflinger, your ignorant comments are as useless as the judges order on a DV restraining order! I hope you never have to tell an 8 year old boy his daddy killed his mother! At that point it really doesn’t matter what the other side of the story is!

By: annie

annie — Wed, 26 Dec 2012 17:29:15 +0000

The detective who was assigned to my case after my final beating { broken nose & jaw} told me that a lot of women who live in affluent neighborhoods, never report abuse as it would appear to be letting down the suburban picture of domestic bliss. So I imagine that number of 25% is much higher.

For the most part the courts hand out lenient sentences, so if the abuser is in a position to write a check and pay his fines on the spot, the next step is public service within the community, MY ex got to serve his community hrs at the ART museum, where he become a public speaker for them!! I don’t consider that to be punishment.

By: Goalflinger

Goalflinger — Tue, 25 Dec 2012 16:06:40 +0000

If you want a better picture of what is going on in the domestic violence world, go to http://www.saveservices.org. or, “avoiceformen.com.” There are always two sides to every story and best to be wary when everything is being painted in one direction only.

By: joebuck

joebuck — Tue, 25 Dec 2012 13:20:47 +0000

Seems unlikely 25% is a real number of abused women. Casts doubt on accuracy of story, manipulation of facts/data and value of information published by Raleigh Public Record.
Another platform for man haters to shout from.